Posts by Little Red Hen

Asparagus, sweet corn, radishes, fresh tarragon and lemon thyme. even though they are herbs. Rubarb. I have a great cake recipe for it. (wipes drool off lower lip)

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Were you told you had to tolerate things as a test?

by LongHairGal in

(i made a thread like this but it seemed to have gotten lost).

i got in some heated discussions years ago over what i would and would not tolerate from people with regard to abuse on a personal level.

we were always fed the line that we should forgive our brother, etc.

LongHairGal, I definitely got that feeling while I was associated. It also seemed that it was worse to take offense than to give it. From trivial to most egregious transgressions were fobbed off with scripture. 'love covers a multitude of sins', and 'look not to your own interest' and 'not keeping account of injury'. In fact, in their warped logic, the one transgressed against was actually made out to be the one stumbling some 'honest hearted' one.

Almost any dealing I had with my husband's family turned into this type of game. Unfourtunatly, I am very forgiving and generous, and set myself up to be taken advantage time and again.

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Did they tell you to tolerate things as a "test"?

by LongHairGal in

i encountered this attitude and got in a few heated discussions about things that happened to me and what i would and would not tolerate from people there.

i agree that we all sometimes do things to offend somebody but what i noticed was that some there would arrogantly assume you were there to take their guff and they behaved accordingly - like they were getting their rocks off playing out some dominant role at somebody else's expense!

i felt that if anybody had the audacity to think they were there to "test" me i would make all the trouble for them they could possibly want!

Little Red Hen

some there would arrogantly assume you were there to take their guff and they behaved accordingly

LongHairGal, I definitely got that feeling while I was associated. It also seemed that it was worse to take offense than to give it. From trivial to most egregious transgressions were fobbed off with scripture. 'love covers a multitude of sins', and 'look not to your own interest' and 'not keeping account of injury'. In fact, in their warped logic, the one transgressed against was actually made out to be the one stumbling some 'honest hearted' one.

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South Carolina? Bonnaroo, Tennessee, DMB, Anyone?

by burnthepig in

i'm from atlanta, ga.. and currently live in south carolina... .

i'll be going to the "bonnarroo" music festival this june 9, 10, 11th etc, in manchester tennessee, and was wondering if by coincedence anyone else might be as well?

i am an ex jw, and am going with my husband.. we are both in our 30's.. and i just thought it would be cool to meet some of you guys.. .

Little Red Hen

You lucky dog!! I wish I was going this year, but have to content myself with 10,000 Lakes fest. I went in 2003, and it was a great time. Cause you are going in the south way off I-24, you will be in the zone for the best camp sites. I was right beside the pasture the state patrol kept their horses. What an awsome spot. (my buds took the northway, and camped in the swamp).

Have you been listening to Radio Bonnaroo? Here is the link http://www.customchannels.net/Players/bonnarooplayer/pop2.htm

Keep us updated on your festival experience.

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Dubs abusing people

by gringojj in

i am so pissed right now.

i will try and make this as easy to understand as possible.

my wife has 2 kids that are not biologically mine that her mother has taken custody of until we are ready to take them back.

Little Red Hen

Gringojj, please don't let Country Girl's harsh words discorage you. I know what it is like to have someone give you their word, and then back out.

Country Girl, There are circumstances that we don't know about that have made Gringojj and his wife place their children with the MIL. Maybe one or both were badly injured in a car accident. Maybe one of them contracted an illness such as Guillian Barre. Maybe one of them is recovering from life threatening toxic shock. The point is, we don't know, and it is not our place to judge. What does seem to be a fact is MIL committed herself to the care of the children. Yeah, she has raised her brood, but if she said yes, to caring for the children, that is a committment. We are not party to the circumstances, and it is really not our place to judge.